It seems that moms and dads are constantly reaching into their purses, bags, strollers, and pockets for portable snacks to hand to their squirmy tots in malls, indoor playgrounds, on walks, and just about anywhere else. And trust me, I am guilty of it too. I rarely leave the house without a bag full of snacks just in case we are out for longer than planned. But the truth is – although for the most part nutritious – these snacks are sometimes given to my kids for the wrong reasons: in the car to keep them occupied while I’m trying to focus on the road, in the stroller to make long walks home from the park more tolerable, or in the grocery store when I’m waiting in line and don’t want to deal with a screaming toddler. When random, all-day munching becomes a habit though, mealtime struggles often ensue.
But snacking isn’t the problem.Snacking is not something that we should give up or phase out. In fact, young kids require more frequent eating opportunities than adults do because of their smaller-sized stomachs. And the problem isn’t necessarily the types of snacks that are offered (although snacks do tend to be less nutritious, especially when coming from a box or package). It’s how and when they are offered that causes problems for our kids. Creating more structure around snacks for my kids has not only improved their overall nutrition, but has made mealtimes much more enjoyable for everyone.
KIDS DON’T NEED TO EAT AROUND THE CLOCK:
Healthy snacking is important for young kids, to help fill nutritional gaps from mealtimes and to fill their small tummies between meals that are spread apart by more than 3-4 hours. Kids don’t, however, need a constant influx of calories around the clock. As kids grow and become older, so does the size of their stomach. By one year, most children are eating about 6 times per day, with the last meal typically consisting of milk or a breastfeeding session. Toddlers tend to eat every 2-3 hours while preschoolers may be able to go 3, maybe even 4 hours between meals. By the time kids are school-aged, they can move to three meals and one afternoon snack depending on timing of breakfast and lunch.One way that we do this in our house is if my son doesn’t drink his milk at breakfast, I might offer yogurt for a mid-morning snack. If he doesn’t eat very many vegetables at lunch, I might offer cut up veggies with hummus for an afternoon snack. The typical snack aisle foods such as goldfish crackers, fruit snacks, pretzels, crackers and character-shaped cookies that I often see being handed out by parents are a far cry from nutrient-dense and fill precious space in little tummies that should largely be reserved for healthier fare. These foods, similar to desserts-like foods can be served occasionally (even once a day) to teach the importance of balance and fun, but ideally shouldn’t be offered as regular everyday snacks.
PARENTS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE WHEN OF FEEDING, NOT KIDS:
According to Ellyn Satter, an internationally recognized expert on feeding, parents and caregivers should be in charge of the “when” of eating. Which means, depending on child’s age, and the family’s routine and schedule, parents set the meal and snack times. For example, in our house where we have a one and a half year old and a four year-old, breakfast is usually around 7:00-7:30am, a snack offered between 10 and 10:30am, lunch is at 1pm, an afternoon snack is offered at around 3:30 and dinner is between 6-6:30. There isn’t usually a bedtime snack offered, because bedtime falls at about 7:30-7:45pm, just an hour after dinner. Otherwise, eating would become a food free-for-all in our house. Were my kids are in charge of timing (likely asking for snacks several times a day) I would be left scrambling for snack items all day, only to battle it out at mealtimes. Milk, although nutritious, is filling and is often over-consumed by kids during the day (which can exacerbate or even be the cause of picky eating at meal times). Offer no more than about two cups (500 mL) of milk per day to toddlers over 12 months (about 1/2 cup at or right after mealtimes is fine) and water in between meals.
BUT KIDS ARE IN CHARGE OF THIS:
It’s important to realize that kids’ eating patterns can be erratic and change from day to day depending on their age, whether they’re going through a growth spurt or not and depending on their activity level. Although we as parents set boundaries around timing of meals and snacks, kids should always be in charge of whether and how much they eat at these times – for the most part, kids will eat what they need and leave the rest. They also won’t starve if a request for a snack is denied, because they will have another opportunity to eat soon enough. Kids aren’t all cut from the same cloth when it comes to eating frequency either. My son (four years-old) has always eaten a lot at meals, whereas my daughter (one and a half) eats smaller portions, so may need more opportunities to eat than my son when she’s his age.
KIDS NEED TO LEARN SELF-REGULATION:
When there is structure around meal and snack timing and when eating opportunities are at the same time everyday (with a bit of flexibility of course), kids are better able to learn self-regulation when it comes to hunger and fullness. Structure helps your kids to build hunger for meals, eat enough to last until their next eating opportunity, and stay attuned to their hunger-satiety mechanisms both during and in between meals and snacks. A lack of structure means that kids will either not be hungry at the start of a meal or be overly hungry, neither of which are beneficial to a child’s overall nutrition or relationship with food. When kids are allowed to snack all day (or drink milk all day), it prevents them from ever having the opportunity to feel true hunger or develop a good appetite for meals. Grazing (or between-meal milk-drinking) poses a much bigger problem for picky eaters, who have a hard time trying new foods to begin with, let alone when they come to the table full on snack foods.
HOW TO END THE GRAZE CRAZE:
Establishing new boundaries and routines with kids is never an easy task. Resistance is almost inevitable. But kids are resiliant and will adapt quickly (some quicker than others) to changes in routine around meals and snacks.In the beginning, when requests for snacks are made (when it’s not time), let your kids know that they are heard and understood by saying “I understand that you want a snack right now” or “it sounds like you’re mad that you can’t have the snack that you want right now” followed by “even though we can’t eat right now, we will have another chance to eat in one hour–when the clock says one o’clock. What would you like to do while we wait until lunch time? Go to the park or do some colouring?” might be a good way to approach it. Kids don’t often react well to the answer “no”, so if you can reframe your answer as “YES, we can have a snack (or meal), but just not right now” (referencing the future eating opportunity instead), kids are more likely to react positively. At the next meal or snack time, it’s important to warn your child of when their next eating opportunity will be. “Make sure that you get enough to eat now, because we won’t have another chance to eat until after your little sister wakes up from her nap in 2 hours” (a time reference is always helpful for younger kids).