Stressed about Halloween candy? As much as you feel the need to play “treat police” this Halloween, try not to. It’s no fun for you as the parent, and it takes the joy out of Halloween for your kids. Here’s my 7-step strategy that not only takes the stress away from parents, but creates a positive experience for kids.
Did you know that Halloween can be a great teaching opportunity for kids, to learn to be mindful and calm around treats and sweets? You bet! As parents, we have the power to use this holiday to strengthen our child’s relationship with food and help them to be calm and mindful around sweets.
On the other hand, it can also do the opposite and create disordered eating behaviours later on. Sneaking treats, hoarding them, overeating on them, etc. As intuitive as it might be for us to micromanage, restrict, police or withhold these sweet treats (especially if this is what happened to you as a child), it can backfire in a major way.
Concerns you may have about Halloween candy:
What if my child goes crazy on Halloween candy and eats way too much?
Good question! They might! But this is ok. One or two days of gorging on candy is not going to make a lick of difference when it comes to their nutritional status, dental health or behaviour. I promise! It might result in a tummy ache or feeling crappy, which is not a bad thing – it will teach them to be more mindful next time (in fact, this can be the most powerful natural consequence!).
What if they become addicted to sugar and that’s all they ask for?
It won’t. Allowing your child to go to town on their candy and have as much as they want on Halloween night will be a thrill for them, but they’ll also learn that the candy wasn’t as amazing as they thought it would be. Having too much actually doesn’t feel great. They may surprise you and have a few candies and then save the rest or just lose interest altogether. The more relaxed and calm we are about it, the more they will be too.
What if they gorge on it and feel sick after?
Perfect! This is a great natural consequence! Don’t shame them or make them feel bad about it, but instead be inquisitive and compassionately curious. Ask them why they think they feel that way. Ask them what they think the best way to avoid that next time might be. Be cautious about how you approach these questions though…you don’t want to come off as “I told you so”.
What if they don’t eat their nutritious foods because they’re too full from candy?
Your’e still in charge of what, when and where food happens. You’ll still serve balanced, nutritious meals and snacks on Halloween day so that they have the opportunity to meet their nutritional requirements, just like every other day. Let your kids have as much candy as they want after trick or treating, and then decide together how many candies your kids will have in the days that follow. Maybe it’s 2-3 small candies? One with their morning snack, one with lunch and maybe one with dinner? This way, they aren’t displacing other nutritious foods in their diet.
What if all of that sugar affects their behaviour?
It won’t. There’s actually no science to support the idea that sugar makes kids hyperactive.
Consider where your fears are rooted, and if they are warranted
Many of our fears are based on our own experiences as kids. Many of us were micromanaged and told that if we eat too much junk food or candy, we’d ruin our teeth, gain weight, be unhealthy… what else?! And many of these messages created disordered thoughts and behaviours about food, our bodies and treats, and might have even led to disordered eating or chronic dieting. These are generational patterns, messages and beliefs that we have the power to shift with our own kids. We know better now – we can actually stop this cycle of disordered thoughts around treats and desserts.
Out ultimate goal for our kids is to have them be relaxed, calm and neutral about treat foods. We want them to be exposed to them (because they will anyways!), and be able to manage them and be mindful with them. Here’s how to do that:
#1 Call them what they are:
Calling candy, chocolate, chips etc. “junk food”, “fun foods”, “sometimes foods”, “bad foods”, etc. only create more allure, excitement and anticipation for them. Labeling foods can also create a situation where kids are labeling themselves… if they’re eating “bad foods”, does that make them “bad”? Kids think in concrete terms – they will start to attach moral value to foods and, in turn themselves, if it’s done regularly.
All foods offer value – candy on Halloween is FUN, yummy and creates positive memories. It also contains carbohydrates which can help to fuel your body and brain. All valuable! And we need other foods (fruits, veggies, protein-rich foods, whole grains etc.) to provide other value (benefits for our body). The point is, we want to neutralize all foods so that certain foods aren’t put on a pedestal or more sought after (candy), and other foods are avoided (veggies). So, call them what they are: gummy bears, liquorice, chocolate bar, etc. They’re just food!
#2 Fuel up:
Serve a nutritious, balanced supper before heading out trick-or-treating, just like you would any other night. This might not mean that they won’t go crazy on candy (and again, this is ok), but at least it gives them a good chance to fill up on nutrients dense foods. It might help them to be a little more mindful with their candy stash too, if their tummies are satisfied. Make sure that each meal and snack contains some protein (such as meat, eggs, beans, lentils, dairy products etc.), fibre (veggies, fruits, whole grains, beans/lentils etc.) and fat (nuts, seeds, oil, avocado etc.) as these are all satiating nutrients.
Check out my Top 10 Easy Weeknight Dinner recipes for some inspiration for a healthy pre trick-or-treat dinner!
#3 Pour it out and sort it out:
When your kids return, get them to sort through their candy and separate the “can’t-live-withouts”, and put the “just oks”. This is one case that you want to encourage your child to be a bit of a picky eater. The point of this is to teach your kids to enjoy foods that they actually like, and to be choosy in what they indulge in. You don’t want your kids to eat the candy just because it’s candy. Maybe they trade with their siblings, offer to donate it, or trade it in for something else like a fun little toy or experience like going to a water park, or they can give it to you to freeze and use in baking later!
#4 Encourage bravery:
Now I know that I just said to teach your kids to be picky when it comes to treats, but you could also encourage them to try something new. Do something that your kids don’t expect and encourage them to try a new Halloween candy or chocolate treat that they’ve never had before, or that they’re unsure of. For example, if they always go for gummy-type candies, encourage them to try a mini chocolate bar with nuts in it. This will not only put treats on a more level playing field with other foods (which will decrease the desirability of them), but will also encourage them to be more adventurous with all foods (including healthier ones at mealtimes).
#5 Let them enjoy:
Without micro-managing your child’s consumption, let them eat as much as they want on Halloween night. Your child might surprise you by having a few and then deciding to save the rest (like my son usually does), or gorging on them and eating until they feel sick (like my daughter might).
Either way, it ultimately teaches your child how to self-regulate their intake of treats down the road. It also removes the “forbidden-fruit” factor. If kids have free rein to enjoy their candy (or treat foods in general) sometimes, and they know that they are able to have them (in moderation) regularly, it takes the urgency to “get it in while you can!” away. It also decreases the chances of your kids sneaking candy or over-indulging when you’re not there. And I promise you–one night of gorging on treats will not affect their long-term nutritional status or weight.
#6 Don’t micro-manage:
If you take charge of the candy stash and police when and how much candy can be consumed, you’re sending the message that your kids cannot be trusted with it. In other words, this doesn’t teach them how to moderate their intake of treats.
In the first two years of life, kids don’t need (and shouldn’t really eat) candy or high sugar treats at all (with the exception of birthday cake of course). From ages two to four-years-old, kids aren’t old enough to manage their candy stash on their own, so it’s best if you help them by coming up with a daily amount of candy that seems fair (maybe it’s one, two, or four depending on age) and allowing your child to decide when they are going to have it (it could be for dessert after lunch, as part of a snack in the afternoon, or even WITH a meal). For kids ages four and up, they are likely ready to manage and store their own stash with the expectation that they will adhere to the daily amounts that were negotiated and eat their candy in a designated area (usually the kitchen table where there’s few distractions).
Giving kids the opportunity to manage their candy stash will take some of the power away from the candy and give them the confidence to manage their treats in a healthy way. Regardless off age, I encourage parents to decide when designated eating times are (grazing all day on snacks–or candy for that matter–is a recipe for mindless eating and mealtime battles (and potential health/weight issues down the road).
#7 Let them make mistakes:
Kids learn by making mistakes, and however upsetting it is for us parents to see our kids gorge on treats (and even get sick), ultimately, this will teach our kids to moderate their intake of them.
Instead of getting angry and punishing kids for eating too many candies, approach the situation calmly and get your child to talk about it. Ask her why she thinks she feels sick and what she might do next time to avoid the same feeling again. Explain how the fun is taken out when too many Halloween candies or too much chocolate is consumed. Instead of feeling embarrassed and ashamed, your child will learn from her mistake and think twice before doing it again.
Don’t dread Halloween because of the candy overload. Think of it as a great opportunity to teach your kids about balance, mindfulness, but most importantly, FUN!
Commonly Asked Questions About Halloween Candy
It’s important to remember that treats and desserts play an important part in your child’s life when it comes to a positive relationship with food. You can help your kids eat treats mindfully and in moderation.
Ultimately, it is up to your child to listen to their body to determine how much is enough. Kids learn by making mistakes, and however upsetting it is for us parents to see our kids gorge on treats (and even get sick), ultimately, this will teach our kids to moderate their intake of them. Here are 5 common feeding mistakes parents make.
It won’t. There’s actually no evidence to support the idea that sugar makes kids hyperactive. Instead, it’s likely the time and place that is causing excitement. The very idea of Halloween is exciting to kids, which creates the illusion of hyperactivity.
Catherine Brown says
Great strategy Sarah! I followed many of these steps with my children with both Halloween and Christmas candy and never had any problems.
Stacey Mattinson says
Great tips! Love this! Fantastic read on what to do. It can be hard to give up that control as a parent, but teaching principles is so important!
Abbey Sharp says
These tips are awesome! Will definitely pass it on to my mummy friends 🙂
Ginger Hultin says
Great balanced approach!
Jessica @Small Bites by Jessica says
These are such great tips for the holiday Sarah! Thanks so much for sharing!
Emily | EmPowered Nutrition says
These are really great tips! I love how you included let them enjoy and let them make mistakes! So true!